So, people always wonder why the girls want to be with bad men. The answer is simple: it's because girls believe they can change the man.
Is it because they have some kind of weird mothering instinct? Is it because they want to feel superior and good about themselves, having changed this "bad guy"? Is it the challenge, doing something that no one else can?
Maybe. But I think the cliche works because when you can change someone for the better - that's love. If you'll notice, all the romance flicks have this. Guy meets girl, guy loses girl because one or both of them have Issues/Problems. They fall apart. They get back together because they both realize the other has helped them change for the better.
personally i blame the jap/korean jap serials for glamouring obviously mismatched couples.
there's always a happy ending for them in the end, even if they bicker, bark at each other all day, or just break each other's heart on a daily basis.
real life is often more cruel. if you've hooked up with a bitch/bastard/bad boy, chances are, you're gonna suffer hell. and chances are, your kids will too.
It's a problem because where do you draw the line between "This person can be changed because he/she loves me" and "This person will never change!"
And then there's the problem of love=acceptance. Because y'know - if you supposedly love someone, you'll accept them for who they are. But even if they're bad to you?
Battered spouses always stay because they continue to believe that their partner will change. Also because they're needy and co-dependent and love (or think that they love) their partner.
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personally i blame the jap/korean jap serials for glamouring obviously mismatched couples.
there's always a happy ending for them in the end, even if they bicker, bark at each other all day, or just break each other's heart on a daily basis.
real life is often more cruel. if you've hooked up with a bitch/bastard/bad boy, chances are, you're gonna suffer hell. and chances are, your kids will too.
It's a problem because where do you draw the line between "This person can be changed because he/she loves me" and "This person will never change!"
And then there's the problem of love=acceptance. Because y'know - if you supposedly love someone, you'll accept them for who they are. But even if they're bad to you?
Battered spouses always stay because they continue to believe that their partner will change. Also because they're needy and co-dependent and love (or think that they love) their partner.
So you see... very troublesome, this love thing.
find someone who's not f**ked up.
you dont need someone who batters you and messes with you.
a partner is there to make your life easier. not more screwed up than it already is
Luckily I'm not a battered spouse
heh.
i hope i can say the same for YOUR spouse.
he as an equal chance of being freezed over or being battered.
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