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:: Thursday, May 06, 2010 ::

Trimming fat

So. I have removed the tag-board, which, hopefully will make the blog load faster. I don't think there will be any other changes in this blog, apart from removing redundant scripts and various blog elements that are unnecessary. It's been nearly 8 years I've had this blog, and considering it holds a GREAT deal of my memories, I'm not going to let it die just yet.

I've been told I'm a sincere person (still haven't figured out what that really means), and this blog is and will be sincere - in the "speaking honestly about one's thoughts and feelings" kind of way. Might be a backhanded compliment in that I speak too freely at times?

Who knows. I'm aware I don't speak the truth all the time, especially when a lie helps to smooth ruffled feathers much better - it could very well be that I'm a successful liar, in that people think I'm being sincere even when I'm not?

It's not something I would aspire to - if anything, I would prefer to keep mum rather than be in a situation where I'm forced to say something that isn't true. I try my best, honestly I do, to say things that are true without offending people, but it's much, much too difficult, and I would rather not say anything. It gives people the impression that I'm quiet, which to some extent I am.

However, if I don't say anything, it's not for lack of wanting to do so - it's for fear of offence. And in all honesty, listening is much easier to do than speaking - half the time, people are at cross-purposes because they hear what they want to or merely understand the surface meaning without delving properly into what the speaker might have meant.

We're imperfect communicators, so I don't know why there isn't a greater emphasis on listening as well as speaking. You hear of all sorts of oratorical courses, but there's hardly anything on the market on listening for effective communication.

There should be. People don't listen quite as much as they should - rather, everyone seems to go about expecting everyone else to understand their point. I think this is true of many discussions (especially with large groups of people in meetings) - people just speak their points over and over in increasingly loud voices because they think they're not being heard.

Because no one is listening that carefully, the different opinions are only briefly acknowledged, and it is the person with the loudest, most aggressive voice that eventually gets remembered.

Which is *such* a good way of deciding on an issue. I'm honestly tired of large meetings. They accomplish less than is originally intended and so far have failed to prove to me that they are worth any value apart from having it down on paper that the matter has been discussed.

Well, anyway, meetings aside, I've decided that I'm going to rediscover the joys of isolation, so I can listen to ME.

:: And that's all she wrote 10:17 PM [+] ::
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